The INFJ personality type is very rare, making up less than one percent of the population, but they nonetheless leave their mark on the world. As Diplomats (NF), they have an inborn sense of idealism and morality, but what sets them apart is the accompanying Judging (J) trait – INFJs are not idle dreamers, but people capable of taking concrete steps to realize their goals and make a lasting positive impact. They tend to see helping others as their purpose in life, but while INFJs can be found engaging rescue efforts and doing charity work, their real passion is to get to the heart of the issue so that people need not be rescued at all.
INFJs indeed share a very unique combination of traits: though soft-spoken, they have very strong opinions and will fight tirelessly for an idea they believe in. They are decisive and strong-willed, but will rarely use that energy for personal gain – INFJs will act with creativity, imagination, conviction and sensitivity not to create advantage, but to create balance. Egalitarianism and karma are very attractive ideas to INFJs, and they tend to believe that nothing would help the world so much as using love and compassion to soften the hearts of tyrants.
INFJs find it easy to make connections with others, and have a talent for warm, sensitive language, speaking in human terms, rather than with pure logic and fact. It makes sense that their friends and colleagues will come to think of them as quiet Extroverted types, but they would all do well to remember that INFJs need time alone to decompress and recharge, and to not become too alarmed when they suddenly withdraw. INFJs take great care of other’s feelings, and they expect the favor to be returned – sometimes that means giving them the space they need for a few days.
Really though, it is most important for INFJs to remember to take care of themselves. The passion of their convictions is perfectly capable of carrying them past their breaking point and if their zeal gets out of hand, they can find themselves exhausted, unhealthy and stressed. This becomes especially apparent when INFJs find themselves up against conflict and criticism – their sensitivity forces them to do everything they can to evade these seemingly personal attacks, but when the circumstances are unavoidable, they can fight back in highly irrational, unhelpful ways.
To INFJs, the world is a place full of inequity – but it doesn’t have to be. No other personality type is better suited to create a movement to right a wrong, no matter how big or small. INFJs just need to remember that while they’re busy taking care of the world, they need to take care of themselves, too.
Tuesday, February 11, 2014
Melody had a great birthday on her actual birthday of January 12th! She had so much fun from all the people that came to celebrate her special day. That extraordinary night three years ago at 9:53pm when she couldn't just have an ordinary birth, she wanting to make a grand entrance that I don't think any of those doctors or nurses will ever forget. As John likes to say, she "jackknifed" her way into the world. She also couldn't wait to meet us, because she tried to come at 24 weeks/3 days and again at 26/27 weeks, but I was able to convince her to just hold off on making her entrance for just a little while longer. She agreed, and she decided to pick the anniversary date of John and I' first date to be her birthday. Although, she was 5 weeks/1 day premature, she has been a firecracker from the very beginning, and she won't let anything slow her down or get in the way. Here's to my sweet girl who is destined to do great things!
Melody had her three year appointment on January 28th, and she is doing great. Very healthy! She was 37 inches in height (50%ile), and 29 lbs. in weight (30%ile). Her weight was in the 15 percentile last year, so that is a great improvement.